Harvard University, for 75 years conducted a revolutionary study in psychology to find out about human happiness. Their study included following the lives of two groups of men for over 75 years and now follows their baby boomer children to deeply understand how childhood experiences influence and mold a person in middle age.
A lot of people are under the conception that the way to lead a happy and healthy life is through having a lot of money and fame. Dr. Robert Waldinger begs to differ. After long years of researching, he says down the real way of finding happiness in the Ted talk below.
According to Dr. Waldinger, the first and foremost way of attaining happiness is by maintaining good relationships. He says that good relationships keep us happier and healthier.
It is said that having someone to share your life with reduces emotional pain and makes life easier. It also helps in relaxing our nervous system.
According to the data, lonely people die younger and do not often lead a healthy life.
Dr. Robert emphasizes the importance of having a good quality of friends. He says that it isn’t necessary to surround ourselves with a lot of people, what is necessary is to have a few good people who can make life worth living. He also says that in a relationship, it is not the romance but the depth of the relationship that truly matters. We should surround ourselves with people who bring out the best in us and in front of whom we don’t have to put a mask on.
At the end of everything, it is who we end our lives with. Not what we end it with. Remember, graves don’t have pockets. It is only the things we can’t buy that are worth cherishing. So prioritize authentic human bonds and if you find people who genuinely wish for your best, keep them. Value them.