What’s wrong with a little white lie? We all tell them, right? Suppose there was a category of lies, separating little white lies from big black ones. In a way, there is. Society separates lies that they deem to be okay from lies which cause damage. They have all sorts of characteristics and excuses which make these lies different from one another.
And then there are those lies we tell ourselves, which can be harmless for now, but detrimental later. If you’re not familiar with these lies, then today, you will be. Maybe you can recognize those little white lies you tell yourself, and put a stop to it. These white lies will come back to bite you.
1) When this happens, all will be better.
This lie is deceiving to oneself. For example: “When I get in shape, I will feel better about myself.” So, you think, with a better body and mind, you will be able to have a higher self-esteem, right? Well, in a way, you will, but it’s only because exercise makes a healthier brain. But this health only goes so far, if you don’t’ change your entire lifestyle. Without the proper attitude, no amount of physical beauty will change the way you look at yourself. You can have a flat stomach and yet, still feel inadequate and unable to socialize. Don’t lie to yourself about your future, instead, work on your attitude day by day and make lasting improvements.
2) If I could just have the willpower, I could conquer
Having willpower is great! The problem is waiting till you naturally get that self-discipline, which could take some time. You’re lying when you assume willpower is on its way to help you immediately, it’s you who need to build the willpower through other tactics-tactics such as creating a helpful environment to breed strength. This is possible, and if you buy healthier foods, you eat healthier, and if you delete apps on your phone, you don’t use them. See where I’m going with this? First, build willpower, then grow more! Conquer as you go and be honest with yourself.
3) I can change people who don’t want to change
This should be an obvious misconception, however, so many people continue to try and force people to bend to their whims. It’s a lie we tell ourselves every day, “We can change the bad things about people.” The thing that’s most important is helping others who wish to change themselves. They must be ready and willing to make a positive change in their lives, a change that they have decided. It’s a waste of time to force people into being something they don’t want to be. It makes more sense to distance yourself from actions you despise and love them as best you can. Never lie to yourself about how willing others are to change the way you want them to. It doesn’t work.
4) I will start tomorrow
And finally, there’s that procrastination lie we tell ourselves concerning our motivation and our future. We say, “I will do it tomorrow, or I will start my different lifestyle tomorrow.” This is a lie that often keeps coming, day after day, month after year. It’s the never-ending New Year’s resolution. So many of us do this, we tell this lie in order to make us feel better about how lazy we’ve become. As humans, we have become so spoiled by technology, that we generally don’t have to live up to our resolutions, and we still see a tomorrow as a solution. Stop lying to yourself, get up and do what must be done today!
So, when you think about the white lies, the black lies or whatever color you paint them, think about this. Are you lying to yourself now more than you lie to others? Regardless, I think we all should try a little honesty this coming year. Let’s try to decrease lying and look life in the face with an honest expression.
I think it will pay off in the future. We need to get real and teach others how to be just as real with us in return.