“When someone is rude, keep a smile on your face. When you stay on the high road and keep your joy, you take away their power.” ~ Joel Osteen
We all have a few people in our lives with whom we have a love/hate rapport – from your boss, relatives, family members to friends. Sometimes they are super sweet to you and in the next moment, they’re as sour as sour candies. Many even ask questions that hit on your last nerve!
So, how do you deal with these people? South at them? Get angry? Get offended? Leave the scene? No, you don’t do all these. Simply be positive and speak your mind. You have the complete right to be defensive but in a way that does not sound or comes off as negative.
Don’t go as low as them.
Indicate that you appreciate their perspective. The key is to handle the situation or people as an adult. Rude comments/actions are mere reflections of a person’s self-perception. So, do not go down with the other person. Shift your focus to other things but complete the conversation.
Say thank you.
That’s the best way to cut through a person’s rudeness. A simple “Thank You” will reflect your maturity level and prove your acknowledgment of the individual’s behavior towards you. It will only shut down the person.
End the conversation.
Whenever you feel irritated or angry, remember to think beyond it all. Do not resort yourself to disrespecting yourself by reacting to a person’s comments, opinions or questions in a negative manner. Instead, choose to become a bigger person by ending the argument or discussion in the first place.
Whenever you encounter rude comments or actions, simply make the person believe that his/her remarks do not have any effect on you. It’s not easy to reaffirm a wrong person’s action by saying s/he is right. But doing so will help you to make the person believe otherwise. And it will prevent the situation to blow out of proportion. You might not like it at the moment, but it will benefit you in the long-run.