Emotional rejection is really hard to be comprehended with or even to be accepted by humans. When intense feelings are created, it is inevitable to invest emotionally to a relationship we are into, just like it is inevitable to not being able to realize when someone can reject us and not wanting to be with us anymore. The feelings that are created later on are mixed, and a lot of times we go through phases until we accept them. In my opinion, the notion of the situation appears later on, and I believe that we do not stop hoping for a possible return of the one who rejected us.
Nonetheless, we are not usually in a position to accept any advice we get from our inner circle, believing that those people are irrelevant with the situation that we are experiencing, and according to our way of thinking, just because of that, it makes them unable to have any kind of opinion on the matter. From our perspective, it seems as if they misunderstood the situation. The fact that they do not know them as well as we do, making them create a false idea, is one of the excuses that we think in order to explain their behavior.
But why do we tend to not accept rejection and go back to the person that ostensibly is uninterested in us? Perhaps because from a young age we learn that we need to be accepted by our social environment. Creating a relationship with someone and developing feelings for them, seems to be hard for us to accept that we might not be as “liked” and eventually our feelings fall through.
Therefore, when we are dealing with such an intensely emotional situation, to blame ourselves, accusing it as being inadequate, is a mistake and it surely does not help towards our personal development. I completely understand that rejection hurts, and makes us introduce a different version of ourselves, a more vulnerable one from the one that we used to express. What we can do is to accept the fact that there are and will be people who won’t like us and will reject us several times.It’s up to us to not let them affect our lives.