It might sound a bit strange that anyone can fall in love with anyone just by asking them a few questions. But if you think about it, it’s pretty rational. The more deeply you know a person, the stronger bond you share.
An experiment back in 1997 by the psychologist Arthur Aron proved that two people who want to come closer can succeed it through 36 questions.
In the initial experiment, Aron examined two groups of people that fit into pairs. The first group of couples spoke for 45 minutes without specific instructions, while the second used 36 questions – set of 3 – given to them.
In the end, the couples who responded to questions said more tied together and even a certain couple fell in love with and created link after 6 months.
So here are the 36 questions that can make anyone fall in love with you and vice versa.
Set 1
#1. If you could have any person on earth as your guest for dinner, who would it be?
#2. Do you prefer a life of fame? If so, how would you like to be known?
#3. Do you have a rehearsal or a pep talk with yourself before calling people, is yes then why?
#4. Describe the ‘perfect’ kind of a day for you.
#5. Do you sing to yourself often? When did you to it last?
#6. Suppose you get a 90-year lifespan, and either your brain or your body stops aging after 30. Which would you pick?
#7. Do you think about how will you die?
#8. What 3 things/habits do you share with your partner?
#9. What are the things you are most grateful for?
#10. Would you change anything about your upbringing if you could?
#11. Try to give as much detail as you can about your life in 4 minutes.
#12. Suppose you were granted some ability in your sleep. What would you like it to be?
#13. If you could know the absolute truth about any one thing, life, yourself, future whatever; what would you ask for?
Set 2
#14. Have you been postponing any of your dreams, why?
#15. What would you say is the greatest thing you have achieved in your life?
#16. What qualities do you admire most in a friend?
#17. What is your most prized memory?
#18. Which one is your worst?
#19. If you were given only one more year to live, what kind of changes will you make in your lifestyle?
#20. What exactly do you understand by friendship?
#21. How much important is love and affection for you?
#22. Tell 5 positive things about your partner.
#23. Would you say you had a happy childhood? Is your family close?
#24. How would you describe the relationship you share with your mom?
Set 3
#25. Tell 3 statements which are true for the both of you. Start with a “We”.
#26. “I wish I had someone in my life with whom I Could…….”
#27. If the two of you were to become really close friends, what are the things you’d like the other person to know about you?
#28. Be frank and blunt and tell your partner what you like about them.
#29. Tell them any of your embarrassing memories.
#30. When did you cry last? Alone as well as in front of someone.
#31. Share with your partner something you already like about them.
#32. Is there any topic which you feel should not be made light of?
#33. If you were to drop dead the next moment, what would be your greatest regret of unsaid words?
#34. If your house is burning and you can save one materialistic thing, what would it be?
#35. Whose death, among your family members would be most disturbing for you?
#36. Tell your partner a problem you’ve been facing and ask them for advice.
