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10 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You.

  • Interesting

  • my ex accused me of adultery for 32 years, to distract attention from his cheating.he thought i didn’t know.stupid bastard.

  • When will we see “10 Clickbait tactics that you need to learn”

  • There you have it. Donald Trump in 10 ways.

  • One name comes to mind Donald Trump !!! Gary Johnson for President 2016

  • Interesting read Susan

  • This sounds like what you hear from a certain male US presidential candidate.

  • The Man

    Why do you use that awful, thick underlining for hyperlinks??? It detracts so much from the reading! Either a thin underline or a different colour is more than sufficient!

  • Lozzapug

    Spot on. I enabled this in a family member for years, against his ex-wife, and others. He was incredibly good at getting my attention and sympathy, and only letting me know what he wanted me to know about his behaviour. Then, when I started to figure it all out, I became the target. It’s been devastatingly painful, but the more hurt I was by his threats and abuse, the more he seemed to enjoy it. So I had to withdraw completely. Now I’m “cold, judgmental and unforgiving” for that, according to him.

    I figure that I will always be the one he hates and he will always try to destroy my happiness and my reputation. Others don’t recognize that I pay the price for his good behaviour with them. Some even believe his lies about me, and his mischaracterizations. I’m even a psychotherapist and I never saw this coming, the level of hatefulness and the unadorned desire for me to suffer. Thankfully I have had excellent support, both professional and in my life. I realise that my task now, after 5 years, is to let it go and just not think about it (or him). I had PTSD from it and am still in treatment, but I am learning to count my many blessings (in fact without this one person in my life I am really lucky). Things could be worse – I could be him. I grant myself the freedom and happiness that I deserve, in really owning the fact that I did nothing to bring this onto myself. Some people are just malevolent and bad-intentioned. Gotta live with that fact, and live well.

  • Kayleigh Zinecker

    Check me if I’m wrong, but self-protection is a form of pride. Phil. 2:1-8 tells us how Jesus gave up his place in HEAVEN to come for each of us…the controllers, the manipulators, the gossipers, the negative, the victims, the arrogant….to DIE for us so that we would not have to pay the price of our sins…He did not protect himself from us, from them, HE poured out his life like a drink offering. Now, I am the WORST at self-protection…I KNOW it is wrong….but I dislike reading articles that encourage me to judge others and feed my own natural tendency toward putting myself first. To even begin IDENTIFY people as these types is dangerous. No wonder people are running, yes, fleeing from organized church groups…

    This fills me with joy.

    Here is the article:

    http://www.crosswalk.com/faith/women/how-to-protect-yourself-from-these-10-toxic-people.html?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=fbpage&utm_campaign=cwupdate

    But not before reading the article or at least skimming through it, these comments from these women are so great!

    I usually loath this modern logic, “Flee from toxic relationships because you deserve better! Or God has better for you!” I think, isn’t people the end goal? I believe that controlling people or manipulators ect. as desrcibed in the article largely do not even realize they are doing such things, as they are the way they are. They really need focused on, not taken personally like society trys to condition all of us to do. They are not to be totally ran from. Everything is a cry for love in this life… All people are to be understand, not taken personally, but in this day, everyone is told to be offended for your own good! To make a situation out when there is none. So here are the womens’ comments from Rhonda and Ellen (again, please read after the article.

    Rhonda L Coyle ·
    Follow · Top Commenter · Hampton, Virginia
    ain’t it strange how Jesus hung out, even making ‘peace’ amidst these so-called societal rejects – and he even called the ones, who labelled them as this, hypocrites!

    If this is true: “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed” (John 8:36) … then the evidence of this freedom is being as Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego in the fire [amidst the craziness] and not only not get burned [affected by it all] … but not even smelling like smoke, a lingering effect similar in nature, restless, irritable, discontent …. judgmental.

    Love is never ‘tough’ – it is patient and kind, non-judgmental, never seeing itself above or below, it seeks no end, no expectations, it simply gives itself as itself, ever increasing its abundance. It endures all things because it never changes what it is, this is its power, not a weakness. Tough love is a lack of faith of the one in us who is greater than that which is without. Mt 5:44-48:

    “But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

    1 Jn 4:18-20:

    “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us.
    If anyone says, “I love God,” yet hates his brother, he is a liar.”

    Tough love is a form of punishment, and escape mechanism – this is fear, not love.

  • Barbara Sinni McKeehen

    Sounds just like my daughter who lives 4 blocks away but hasn’t spoken to me in 2 1/2 years because she “hates my husband” who is not her father. I actually wanted to try it again, but after reading this realize it would be a HUGE mistake.