“That’s when I finally got it. I finally understood. It wasn’t the thought that counted. It was the actual execution that mattered, the showing up for somebody. The intent behind it wasn’t enough. Not for me. Not anymore. It wasn’t enough to know that deep down, he loved me. You had to actually say it to somebody, show them you cared. And he just didn’t. Not enough.” ― Jenny Han
It’s not the thought that counts.
You thought it’s enough to think it. You thought it’s enough that deep down, you love her.
You thought that being enigmatic was an excuse to stop appreciating her – so you let your past, your pride, your demons, your selfishness, the fact that you’re weak or scared, be a validation for why you stopped fighting for it, making an effort for it.
But this is the girl who you need to appreciate.
Give her your time, all your love, take her on a crazy adventure. Hold her hand, teach her something new. Kiss her face a million times, take her somewhere she’s always wanted to go, dance with her cheek to cheek, spoil her, make her feel special every day.
This is the girl who has changed your life, who has made you a better man. This is the girl who loves all your wrongness, all those parts of you that you hate. The girl who wipes your tears when you speak about your dad, who kisses your edges, who loves all your roughness. Those parts of yourself that you only show to her, she adores them – her love warms them, your imperfections, it changes you.
This is the girl you need to appreciate because you know in your heart you will never give all of you like that to anyone else; no one will love you better. No one will make love to you with as much passion.
A true connection is once in a lifetime.
Extraordinary love is rare, it means something. You need to fight for it, make an effort for it. You think choice means something. You think easiness is good. You think the more chances you have, the better. But, trust me when I say that she is in your heart. Your roots have entwined together, she looks at you as if you’re magic. You might think there’s something better – but it’s all an illusion, it’s all bullshit – that’s just your ego talking.
This love is extraordinary, you think you want it easy; calm seas and smooth sailing. But the girl you fell for is opinionated and smart, who doesn’t always agree. She is difficult, she requires effort; it will be a challenge, work – but the easy girl will never satisfy you. She will be sweet but uninspiring. She will always leave you wanting more.
Dating her is not the end of your liberty – it’s the beginning of it.
She argues with you because she cares. She craves more from you – she has opinions and big dreams for the future. She never lets you get away with slacking on your talents, and no matter how much she loves you, eventually she will leave if you stop putting in effort.
Because she knows what you have, and she will never put up with not getting everything she deserves.
Don’t risk losing the best thing you ever had.
Whatever you do, don’t let her get away. It may be difficult at times – she’ll drive you crazy, she’ll frustrate the hell out of you. But she will never leave you uninspired or unsatisfied. Although she will leave if you keep taking advantage of her.
You think that no matter what you do, she will always be there because she loves you. But remember that you fell for the girl who isn’t easy — as in, she won’t just “go with the flow.” She knows her worth. She is the girl who will not settle for someone who doesn’t put her first.
You have a love that builds, that makes your soul alive. Don’t let this love get discarded for the next hit. Don’t lose this love because of your pride, fears, ego or selfish ways. Because someone will value how special she is – someone will put in the effort it takes to be with her.
Wake up and realize she’s worth fighting for. Because if you don’t, you are the one who will suffer the most.