So my younger sister grew close to one of her boyfriend’s friends last summer.
Her boyfriend was studying for the MCAT in his free time and wasn’t spending as much time with her. So she began to hangout with the male friend. Her boyfriend said he trusted her and he wasn’t worried or jealous. He should have been.
She asked her boyfriend for a break and then slept with the male friend. She reported to me that the affair was an “empty experience.” She got back with her boyfriend right after. Her boyfriend was confused when the longtime male friend suddenly stopped speaking to him. My sister never said a word. She left her boyfriend think he’d offended his friend or something. She asked me to never tell.
Fast forward to 2024! Valentine’s Day is approaching. Her boyfriend texted me asking for my help in setting up a heartfelt proposal for her. I cannot help with this in good conscience. I feel I’d be complicit in her sin. Their marriage would be started on a lie. Tonight, I encouraged her to tell him what happened last summer. She said they were on a break and it doesn’t matter. But it does! She asked for the break with ulterior motives. The truth will come out.
How can I say no to helping with the proposal? I can’t be involved with this.
— PART 1 —
So I had a conversation with my sister.
I told her she needed to tell her bf what happened last summer. She called me a “b*tch” but called him on the phone that same evening. I think she feared I would tell him myself. I heard part of the conversation and her boyfriend was saying how it was very hurtful and he was upset that she did that but he still loves her, etc. So the proposal happened anyway. I did not help out (thankfully I was not able to leave work early).
And the crazy thing is, several men reached out to the bf on his Instagram after the happy couple photo was posted. One man shared his surprise that my sister and the bf were engaged because that guy had slept with my sister two months prior. Other men shared that my sister had engaged in sexual activities with them at different points in the recent past. I did not realize she got around so much….it’s crazy. Her bf (now fiancé) brought these allegations to her and she told him those people are “trying to disturb our peace.” She urged him to block these people. She deleted all of her own social media and blocked any man she’d ever been intimate with in any capacity. I think these are her attempts at damage control.
Her fiancé is infatuated with her (this is his first real relationship), but I think even he knows this engagement is wrong.
This whole relationship is wrong. He still hasn’t told his parents they’re engaged. They never really approved of him dating my sister anyway. She is a free spirit who loves tattoos and impulsive living. He’s from an upper-middle-class family and has a very specific trajectory for his life. So yes, they’re engaged. But it’s all a dumpster fire of foolishness.
— PART 2 —
