Of course you’ll keep on living and you‘ll move on, but your inner child will be there forever, protecting you from new possible heartbreak.
What happens when you connect, meet, see (even through internet) a possible long-term partner?
How does this trigger point works?
The energy can take over your whole system. It is so strong in protecting you from any more harm, that this can show up in your body functions, but also behaviour and sleep. When it stands up, all of a sudden, it can look lik this:
– Heart problems ‘out of nowhere’
– The strong feeling of ‘ending this now’- whatever it is.
– Feeling very nervous, without any reason
– Crying out of nowhere, and feeling scared and lost
– The person that comes near you, has to be ‘ removed at once’.
– You cannot sleep anymore, thr is something ‘seriously wrong’
– You start drinking/smoking, or any othr habit to escap from ‘ something’ that feels like a enurmous danger. You want to ‘ get away’
– You need to be alone, and protect yourself, you feel like runnig away now.
– It feels like a ‘ alarm-situation’
What can I do?
Meditate. Lay a hand on your heart and see the child (you as a young boy/girl) in front of you. Ask why it is in so much fear. Hold it when it cries. Tell it this: ‘I am Now grown up. I will remain to protect and comfort you. I DO want to be open to this new love. I know that what you‘re doing is out of love for me. Thank you. ‘
‘But I’m an adult now, and I choose to connect with this person. Don’t be afraid anymore, trust me…’ Put the inner child back in your heart. Give it some toys to play with, and let it be comfortable. You must do this every day, when it is really afraid of loving again….’
Note: The first encounter with your inner child can be very emotional. She or he could’ve been in a dark corner alone and crying for decades. Just pick it up and comfort it, as you are Grown Up Now. Share emotions, cuddle it and make sure it understands that the situation is going to change Now. You’ll keep on
loving it, but you’ll be open for new love at the same time.
Se in the child’s eyes. Concentrate on it, for a long time. Feel how it looks like, how it feels
like, how it acts. It’s scared, confused, insecure and unsafe. How old is your child? See how it holds you
back from change, how it prevents you to become emotionally grown up. See how it stops you from getting
to your true feelings. You’re capable of holding this child, comforting it. Whisper for example: I’m <<name>> and I’m <<age>> years old. I swear to protect you from everything that might harm you. We can do anything, be anywhere and love anyone. It’s okay to have feelings. I’ve seen you, and I’ll hold you. Let’s change. I’ve already changed. I see your fears and I understand them. I see the pain you’ve experienced in
the past. Tell it everything you want it to know and hug it. You’re an adult now, and you can count on yourself. You’re able to protect yourself, love yourself and leave. Embrace your inner child and let it play instead of being scared.
My own inner child. Where would she like to be? What does she want to see? Where does she want to go?
What makes her happy in the present AND the future? What are her dreams? What are her hopes? Where do ‘ my feet’ need to walk, to make us both happy? We – as in Me and My inner child- saw a beautiful mansion, a big tree for ‘grounding’, and a sign post pointing at two different directions: our daily ‘free choice’. We saw an ‘open road’ full of freshness and oxygen and growth! These are symbols for new choices. You can do the same!
I made a collage, with my vintage red shoes from the seventies, it displays where ‘ she’ would like to walk and exist…’- Leda