The following secrets to meaningful relationships are an excerpt from Vernon Howard’s Mystic Path to Cosmic Power– a book that outlines spiritual and psychological truths as simply as possible.
In any relationship, the power of introspection is very important. Whoever has more self-insight tends to be more prized; for they are calmer and more down to earth.
2. Avoid being manipulated
It is important for you to avoid getting trapped in words and being pushed to do whatever you don’t want to do.
3. Your intentions matter more than words
Instead of going for their face value, try to understand what people intend to say and do.
4. A sense of individuality
If a friendship or a relationship requires you to give up on your personhood and dignity it is wrong.
5. Feel connected to people around
We are all cosmically connected to each other. You will never be able to hurt anyone without hurting yourself. Likewise, to make others happy, you must begin by striving for your own happiness.
6. Avoid Unnecessary Desires
When your conscience is clear, you will never be deceived by others.
7. Avoid being resistant
If you pull your guard down and stop repelling everything, it will give you more peace of mind for sure.
8. Know Yourself
Only when you know yourself well, can you know those who are around you?
9. Experience all human relations
Only when you are unafraid to experience all human relations will you be able to see things clearly in life.
10. Understand the meaning of love
When you realize what love really means, you’ll not be hurt when it is gone unseen or unrequited.
11. Be okay with heartaches
Do not be afraid of heartaches. Learn to reconcile with loss before carrying on.
12. Don’t look for Social Validation.
Your value is not determined by your value in the social world. The world is far more than what meets the eye.
13. Learn to appreciate both the pleasant and the unpleasant
In life, to get a complete experience- you must be willing to experience both the good and the bad.
14. Recognize what is bad for you
Do not be absolutely blind to your own mental health and wellbeing.
15. Learn to Value others
Try to appreciate the value other people bring to your life.
16. Know the difference between desire and love
Love is different from desire, and we need to learn how to differentiate between the two. Desire makes you crave more while love is content.
17. Be positive
Learn how to love yourself completely; if you cannot care for yourself and be optimistic; you will not be content in your life.
18. Have a better self-esteem
Instead of living in fear of what others might think of you, learn to embrace who you are as a person.
19. Be Real
Don’t pretend to be someone you are not. Be honest about your love, feelings and your limitations instead of trying to live up to who others think you are
20. Change your life for the better
Embrace your inner goodness and become someone more genuine. By working on your strength and giving yourself the love you deserve, you can be the greatest love for the people.