The most off-putting thing in any relationship is when you are naturally bad in bed. Most polite partners ignore this problem modestly, however, you can understand it yourself when someone genuinely points it out to you.
So here are 12 signs that will remind you every time to make you good in bed.
1. Insecurity about your own body
You have to be confident enough if you want to be the one who initiates sex. You cannot doubt your body type while in an intimate position and you have to learn to love yourself and generate smartness while in the bed.
2. Learn to bring an end to it naturally
Don’t fret about how to get off the sex. You have to love yourself and maybe masturbate to enliven your sex life. You need to touch yourself to know where your pleasure areas are. Don’t worry that too much self love is a destroyer rather you should know how to get yourself aroused.
3. Maintaining hygiene of your own body parts
Engaging in an intimate relationship means it is necessary to keep your intimate body parts clean. Improper hygiene can lead to infections or other unwanted diseases. You need to clean your armpits and other areas regularly because nobody wants an unhygienic partner on bed.
4. Change your moves from time to time
Keeping it new every time is the key to an enjoyable sexual experience. Take steps so that you don’t lose the spark. Studies say that old sex moves can actually destroy a long-term relationship. So gear up and surprise him/her with your new and unique move.
5. You need to talk more often about sex
Talking about it eases all points which you are uncomfortable to share with him/her. For example, faking an orgasm while having sex is very embarrassing once understood. To convey to them which positions and parts make you uncomfortable.
6. You should not impersonate adult movies or do role-plays too often
This doesn’t make your sex for engaging and intriguing, rather puts you in an awkward position. Studies reveal that porn has very disastrous effects on real-life sex although its important for sex ed. Actors in movies are superficial while your feelings while having sex are real.
7. Don’t feel guilty after having sex
This way you can never move ahead with any other person in life. If you feel in such a way, convey it to your partner frankly. This will save you from having to face unimaginably horrible circumstances later on.
8. Enjoy the sex and don’t think about ending it
Being concerned about the end ruins what’s happening in the present. Learn to enjoy the present. Refrain from worrying too much about how well you perform in the sex. To overcome your anxiety, focus on getting pleasure from your partner.
9. Having a climax in sex isn’t important
Creating the end goal in sex is not the main purpose. The purpose is to enjoy and attain pleasure. So don’t worth over having a climax. If your experience is worthy and if you connect with your partner really well, other things shouldn’t matter.
10. Don’t be over possessive about your own self
Come out of your self-made boundaries and limitations. Learn to adapt and adjust. Never allow your mental or emotional factors to interfere in your beautiful moment. Enjoy and live it. Don’t concern over reaching the finishing line, think about how you can make yourself more desirable.
11. You should display your own needs and wants
You are also important while in a relationship. Everyone has their own needs while in the bedroom. Discussing your own ideas develops better ideas in bed and strengthens the intimacy between you. Keeping yourself ignorant about each other can give rise to frictions later on.
12. Do not overthink
Don’t ruin your relationship and intimate moments by thinking too much. Control your thoughts. Performance anxiety usually stems from the pressure to do well on bed. Don’t let such worries hover over your mind. Distract yourself with light music and lights, scented candles or maybe love-talks.