Grief is a very profound experience, yet something which could never be expressed in words. It is different for everyone, and everyone processes it differently. And yet, no one can say who has the more right to be grieving
If you haven’t yet known what true grief is, chances are very high that you’d experience it first hand in the course of your life. This is not because of any ill will towards you, it is just the reality of life and sooner or later we all have to face it.
And when you have experienced a very great loss, such as the death of a near and dear one, though there is nothing that can take the grief away, it does feel a little better when you know that there is someone who understands. And even though another person might not help you in overcoming that sadness, but the fact that there is someone out there who knows how it feels is sometimes consolation enough.
Grief has no one true firm and for everyone, it manifests in a different way. And these people also handle it in their own way.
What is important is that no one should negate someone else’s way of mourning and also for the mourner to keep tabs on their psychological health. Being sad is not wrong, but handling it well is crucial.
These Illustrations from artist Mari Andrew are exactly the thing that you might have been trying to say but could never find the words.
#1 This is the truth that those who have handled grief at close quarters would readily agree with.
People say that time heals all wounds but sometimes, no amount of time is enough to heal the wounds and sometimes the grief just never goes away. But it does change size and structure and with time becomes a bit easier to manage than before.
My dad died two years ago today. It’s different for everyone, but my personal experience is that grief doesn’t ever go away, but it does change shape and it becomes something you can hold rather than something that overwhelms you–a part of you, rather than a burden. Whatever you’re carrying today, my heart is very much with you.
#2 People are usually told that there are 5 stages of grief post which you are able to move on.
But sometimes it might feel like a never-ending cycle, and all you have to do is hold on and do your best.
#3 This is perhaps the best message that you can give to someone who has recently incurred a deep personal loss.
Just because you are in mourning doesn’t mean that you don’t have a right to feel ok again.