Everyone has their differences, its own character and its own way how perceive things. However, I think most of us have a common flaw. Yes, we tend to talk a lot and talking more than needed.
The beginning of any sexual relationship, is fascinating and simultaneously overly fragile. The biggest mistake that we pay in the end, is our desire to drop our self-conscious and bring a lot of our experiences in the surface. We begin to uncover our past events, thoughts, fears and all our insecurities are wide open.
I really don’t know while we are still not 100% sure about the person we choose to be next to us, but with love no one can be sure. How can you be sure that the person you have by your side is the one and only and how are you so sure that what manifest, would not become a weapon to be used later against you?
Usually these secrets that you reveal so quickly, fill your mate with insecurities that may result even in obsessions with the relationship. We tend to apologize for relationships and situations from the past in an effort to prove how right we were. We don’t know yet how these words have the power to put our companion in comparison with its own past.
Opening yourself to someone does not necessarily mean that you do poorly at the time, but later you do not have the slightest idea about how your partner will face these secrets. Sometimes it is not the best thing for you to open the treasure chest of the past to a person that you do not know well. Our logic must always work even if it intervenes in love and our feelings.
The cunning will be not to manifest yourself as an open book, but to allow the person you have beside you to read slowly, page by page. To want to read on his own and over time you will feel too that if this person is here to stay, it is now easy to disclose your vulnerable points. If it is meant, then you will love your imperfections like any other piece of yourself.
Unfortunately our generation is based on the logic if something goes wrong or needs effort, then give up at the first difficulty and although it is sad and hurtful, this is the reality and we have to accept it and to adapt.
People give up easily and simply replacing people with great comfort, especially if you have many defects, sensitivities and fears. It is like not wanting to accept that nobody is perfect, but if you find a person that will prove with deeds and words, then it is worth opening without qualms. After his surrender, giving and controlling. The choice is yours..
A large percentage of people are injured by wrong love and poor choice of words, they continue to forget one of the most basic rules of life. “Silence is gold” because ourself is valuable and does not require any passer-by to know what brings our soul.