I think it’s safe to say that everyone wants to fall in love, right. Well, fairytales say that we will meet the love of our lives and we will know, beyond a shadow of a doubt how eternity will go. He will ride in on a white horse and save us from the horrors of life, placing kisses on our cheek and a ring on our finger. Yeah, you’ve heard the stories, and you’ve grown up looking for that knight in shining armour too. Guys, I guess you’ve waited on that beautiful princess to grace your lives as well.
So are the stories true. Is there really this great love, soul mate and perfect half?
Guess what, there are three of them.
Now I don’t mean polygamy. I’m not saying you must collect and keep three people in your lifetime in order to experience true love. What I mean is there will be three great loves in your life, for most people, and they will serve different purposes. Ultimately, in my opinion, it’s the third one that will finally give you rest and accomplishment. Let me explain how this works.
Three great loves
1) The first love, to die for
The first great love of your life comes during your teens or early adulthood. This love is idealistic, completely and totally. A love like this will seem perfect and it will be strong. The emotions and young hormones will have you believe that no other love could ever exist for you. You will want to spend every waking moment together and your friends will support this choice of love for your life as well.
To the world around you, this love will seem like the perfect choice and many will be envious…until it ends, and it will end abruptly. Unfortunately, those unending emotions will end and you will wonder why you ever loved this person in the first place. With the magnitude in which you loved, you will discard and move on with scars that fade quickly. This love, although stronger than all existence, at the moment of climax, was just there to show you what love really feels like. It’s time to move into deeper waters.
2) The second love, to fight for
The second great love of your life will be like a storm. This love generally lasts much longer than the first one-sometimes decades. It is common to fall in and out of this relationship many times, with the idea that another try is what’s needed to set things right. During the second love of your life, it’s common to have children, relocate many times and even make serious career decisions. Your second love will experience these life changes with you and experience the pressure of life as well.
I personally believe that the second love exists to teach us the ups and downs of a true relationship, and it’s not necessarily who we are supposed to be with for the entirety of our lives. Most times, this love is mismaxed because of a desire to enter in serious bond following the first love. The second love may be a long rash decision that we fight tooth and nail to make work. Most of the time, the second love doesn’t work out and it leaves the deepest of scars.
3) The third love, to live for
For most of us, we never see this love coming. It might be a strange pull or obsession to get to know someone, and we won’t be able to figure out why. It could be a chance encounter right in the midst of trying to make the second love work (this is awkward but happens so many times). The third love challenges everything we ever knew about love from the moment we fell in love the first time to the moment we met our third “option”. The best part about the third love is that is comes easy, we can be ourselves with this one and it will seem naturally in his company.
Most of the time, we have more in common with the third love because we weren’t trying so hard to find them and doing what we like put them in our path somehow. Unfortunately, the third love doesn’t always come at an opportune time and many forfeit this love to stay true to the second love, continue fighting for the relationship they have and make the decision to stop “dreaming”. Because when the third love comes around, it may very well feel too good to be true. The fairytales you put to bed during the second love, will start to play through your head again, and since these are fantasies, you might give them up for what you believe is harsh reality.
As sad as this may seem, it happens to most of us. Thing is, for some, they are lucky enough to find their true love with the first choice, and then there are those who are complete by the second. But most of the time, we have three loves in our lifetime, three chances to finally get it right.
How do we know if the third time is the charm?
You will know if the third one is right for you by using a few indicators. The third love will keep coming around. You will keep crossing paths no matter how much you try to get away from this magnetic feeling. Time will be no object of concern for the third love. If it’s true, they will feel the pull just as powerfully as you do. And it will just feel right. There will be such a calm and easy rapport with this person, it will be undeniable. Now whether you want to make this shift is up to you.
But if you make it to your third love, you will understand why nothing ever worked before. It will be like home and it will be real.
written by Sherrie Hurd, for Truth Inside Of You.